Your friend invites you to a backyard barbecue. A part of you wants to skip it...flake out and lie on the couch all night with phone in hand and Netflix providing ambiance. It certainly seems like the easier, more comfortable option. But, at the last second, you roll off the couch (with no less than a monumental effort) and head to the barbecue.
It's a good thing you did, because when you get there you find out the barbecue was never, in fact, just a barbecue.
People tend to measure their lives by mountains climbed: graduating, buying a house, having children. It is easy to direct our efforts towards these tangible milestones; less so for the everyday work of being present in our lives.
But the sum total of your life is measured in something else: the coalescing of experience into the whisper of you that will rustle through the leaves of this earth and the minds of your loved ones long after you are gone. Those are the moments you hold on to, the ones that form the nebulous mirror in your memory of the ones you love.
When you cast your thoughts back for those memories, in a still moment in life where it seems like time pauses for you to pull aside the curtain and reach through the years, do you see your loved ones standing stiffly as though posing for a formal photograph of their achievements? Or are your thoughts sparked to a more whole, rich, heartfelt, slightly alcohol-tinged (who can say, really?) recollection with the phrase "remember the time we..."?
This summer, I was asked to shoot a wedding for the first time. I was immensely flattered, but also incredibly terrified. I had nightmares for a week leading up to the big day, and because it was a secret wedding I couldn't vent my anxiety to anyone I knew 😵
Even though I was so nervous, it ended up being one of the most fulfilling things I did all year. Cindi and Rory had such a low-key wedding that the whole afternoon was focused on the celebration of love, friends, and family, with nothing else to get in the way. I was honored to be able to help them make memories that day.
It's been several months now and every time I go back to look at the photos they still never fail to make me smile. Their wedding was a beautiful day to celebrate their partnership, but I also love seeing the photos as a milestone of how far I've come since picking up my first camera in 2016.
Cindi and Rory, thank you for asking me. Thank you for being such good friends and good people. 💜